Stop comparing yourself to everyone else on social media

For someone who has a blog and who usually thoroughly enjoys posting on her *not one but two* Instagram accounts, I must say I’m getting rather fed up with social media. Not because of what I see, but mostly because of how it’s making me feel about myself.

I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve lost entire afternoons scrolling through various forms of social media, seeing what everyone I’ve ever met in my entire life is getting up to (FYI a lot of them have kids now *shudders at thought*). Not only is this a massive waste of time, but it can also have a very negative impact on how we feel about our own lives.

Comparing our lives to the people around us can be very tempting. The problem is that most of us rarely do it as a way to hype ourselves up. I do believe that a little competition can do everyone the world of good, if it’s channeled into something positive like achieving personal goals or pushing us out of that old safe haven we call ‘the comfort zone’. However, instead we seem to be using social media as a tool to put ourselves down and convince ourselves that we aren’t achieving what we should be.

It seems pretty obvious to say ‘don’t believe everything you see on social media’. It’s been reiterated to us 1,000 different ways by various celebrities and Instagrammers that we should take some of the things they post on their social media platforms with a pinch of salt. Enjoy the content, but don’t be fooled into believing that anyone is truly ‘living their best life’ 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. And I think it’s time that we really start listening to this advice.

Don’t compare your behind the scenes to someone else’s best bits. Obviously the things we see on social media are the highlights. It’s very rare that someone broadcasts the lows, the weekends where nothing is achieved, bad days at work or the shitty parts of the relationship. Everything is filtered to portray the best bits.

Don’t be fooled into think that you’re life isn’t as good as everyone else’s. The chances are you are doing just fine. There will always be people who are more successful than us, with trimmer bodies or better holiday photos. But there are also plenty of things that we all have to be thankful for, so take a little time to be your own hype man.

And please don’t go actively looking for trouble. Sometimes I feel curiosity getting the better of me and I wander onto the pages of old friends or work colleagues just to see how their lives have changed. Inevitably this always ends with me stalking the people I’m not so fond of, an old frenemy or an ex-boyfriend. I’ve had to make a conscious effort over the last year or so to break this bad habit, because I’ve learnt the hard way that no good can come from it.

It would be wrong ~and quite bold~ for me to say that no good can come from social media. In many ways it still connects us to those around us, plus it’s provided us with more videos/photos of animals doing cute things than I could possibly imagine in my wildest dreams. All I’m saying is be savvy when you’re scrolling.

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